Many devoted dog moms *believe* that they have trust with their dogs - but really, trust isn't what they think it is.
When we don't understand why our dogs are reactive, or anxious, or bark like crazy at everything (or nothing), or only come when it's convenient ...
... that is an indicator that we do NOT have a solid trust foundation. (even if our dog is sometimes loving, and happy to work for rewards) ...
A loving, cooperative relationship with our dogs starts with TRUST.
From there, we can learn to listen to one another, and learn how to cooperate together, and learn how to behave better, together.
The thing is, we have some things ALL WRONG about training dogs.
We have been wrongly led to believe:
1. That a dog who is a pleasure to live with must be trained to be obedient.
Nope. The very nature of training, no matter how 'positive', is still based on coercion, compliance and transactions.
[^^That just doesn't align with us smart, kind, enlightened women who aren't willing to settle for that. We know what that's like, and we refuse to buy into that 'power over' idea with our dogs. Nope. Empowerment is NOT the same as power over.]
2. That our dogs are not intelligent enough, not sentient enough, not willing enough, and just not capable enough to learn how to be cooperative, attentive and responsive without being PAID to do so. ugh...
3. That if our dogs are not well-behaved ... that it's our fault for not being a good enough 'trainer'. Or that there is something wrong with our dogs (and maybe we should just medicate them)
The truth is:
THESE THREE COMMON BELIEFS ARE FALSE.
Here's what I know to be true:
In spite of our differences, dogs and humans are very much alike. We are both intelligent, sentient, socially-adapted mammals who thrive in loving family units where trust in one another helps us all to feel safe, calm and happy.
That means our primary role as dog moms is to grow and nurture safety, trust and confidence in us and in our dogs ... which leads to calm, connected and mindful behavior ... for everyone!
I get it: having a sensitive, anxious, hyper or reactive dog is hard.
When your dog is communicating something that you don’t understand, it’s frustrating - for both of you.
Behavior is Communication, and since dogs can’t talk it out, they ACT it out.
When your dog feels uncomfortable, vulnerable and unheard … their behavior escalates from a whisper to a scream. (just about like us, right?)
Just like the story I shared about Maya ...
I agreed to assess Maya, knowing that she was literally screaming for help with her crazy, obsessive-compulsive, worrisome and frustrating behavior.
Underneath all of her unruly behavior was a sweet and lovable pup, and her previous family thought they did everything possible to help her. They tried so hard.
Dog moms are like that -- we're passionate about trying to do right by our difficult dogs...
And yet, I've seen it again and again -- the same big mistakes that lead to the difficult and challenging behavior of misunderstood dogs.
It's not our fault though. The dog training methods that are so commonly used just don't work for most of us in real life. They're outdated and ineffective outside of the training center.
We don't know what we don't know, right?
And as Maya Angelou says: "When we know better, we do better..."
That's exactly why I'm inviting you to this free mini-course!
Let me be clear: what I'll be teaching you in this class is NOT some spin on the same old positive reinforcement dog training tactics that focus on treats, games, setups and transactions in an attempt to get your dog to be obedient ... while their true feelings and real needs are dismissed.
If my enlightened and contemporary, common sense, social sciences approach to living in cooperative partnership with dogs resonates with you, then you will LOVE this course. And I'd love for you to join us!
Your loving partnership guide,